I will offer this for thought. My dad was in the depths of depression and was preparing me for the inevitable by telling me where documents were, etc. I knew his pain from a personal, inside experience, not as an observer. I could offer him no viable alternatives to ease his pain. Understanding it at this level, were I to intervene in his decisions, I think I would be selfish. At that time I did not think his intents were selfish. But in the end his choice was to stay. So I can't say how I would have felt otherwise. We all know this is not an inconsequential act. Circumstances are different and they can change.