no by geriatric I meant end-of-life issues like the family reconciliations. I stuck up for him WAAAAY back when, about whether or not he was out of line with something he said, did you take it the wrong way or something? I was like, he coulda meant it this way or that way... maybe a conversation between you and a bf? anyway, I disagree with myself now!

and kudos to you for even trying to patch things up w/family. I can't even try.