My brother took his life 11 years ago...and I do not think his actions were ever intended to be selfish. I believe he was in so much mental pain that the only way he knew to handle it was to take his life.

I believe that in most cases, the person taking their life does not in any way intend the action to be selfish in a negative way. The action is perceived as selfish by those that are left behind, because it impacts them so strongly.

When I have contemplated the action, I was actually trying not to be selfish...I firmly believed that others would be better off if I were gone. Yes, I know that was twisted thinking, and I know it was not true, but that was how I felt at that time. I'm sure, though, that my friends and family would consider it a very selfish act, as they would not understand my twisted thinking at that time.

One last thought...when did being selfish become a bad thing? Yes, taking one's life is tragic, and if the perception by those left behind is that it was a selfish act, then that makes it harder to deal with. But, in general, why is being selfish bad? Why is it wrong to do what you feel is right for yourself? This is something I've been struggling with...I've always been taught that it's wrong to be selfish, but I'm starting to learn that sometimes it's necessary and okay to think of myself first, even if it's at the expense of others.