My general physician is a woman and since I don't have any gynecological problems, she does my yearly exam. Can you find a female doctor? Did this lump come suddenly, is it on the external area and does it hurt - wondering if this could a easily remedied skin problem. Your health is very important and I agree all doctors just look at the private area as any other part - they become so desensitized ...they're not thrilled to be looking anymore.

I hope this ends up being a treatable problem and please make a doctors appt -with a female or your regular doctor. Lets us know what he/she says - good luck.