My T and my pdoc are both right around 60ish, about a dozen years older than me. At this age, 10 years apart really is pretty insignificant. They feel about the same time in life as me, which is important at this point. We are all professionals, married, with several kids. We "get" each other pretty well. I would not feel at all comfortable with a T much younger than me, particularly one who has not been through the stresses and joys of marriage and parenthood.

Now when I was in college, my T was old enough to be my father. I saw him more as an authority figure and nuturer, and that was exactly what I needed at the time.

I think what we need as far as age, status in life, etc. can change depending on where we are and what we need.