I saw a woman T very briefly. My husband came in for a session with me because he was really worried. I was suicidally depressed at the time and had been trying to tell her how bad things were for me, but unfortunately, I tend to joke around when I'm really stressed out - made comments like how I thought I was depressed for a while, but really my husband just needed to do every single thing differently. Anywaaaaaay, my husband and I discussed this and he thought it would be helpful if he went in with me. He told her how I had said to him that I could not stand the thought of living through the entire day, so I broke it up into segments and made an agreement with my myself that I would not kill myself during each segment. Like when I got up, I would think, "Okay, I won't kill myself until I get the kids to school." Once the kids were up and at school, it was getting myself to work. Once I was at work, it was lunch, etc.

When my husband told this T what I had said about how my days went, she turned to me and actually raised her voice and got angry, "Did you think about that was going to make him feel before you said that?" I told her that was how I felt and I was just trying to get someone to understand how bad things were for me. She just repeated the question. "You didn't answer me! Before you said that, did you stop and think about how that was going to make him feel?" Yes, Hag from hell, I did. I deliberately wanted to get him to understand how horrible I feel and that I feel like killing myself all the f'ing time and his behavior just makes it worse for me. I didn't go back to that therapist again ever.

My current T hurt my feelings once. I told him the next time and he agreed he was insensitive and said he wouldn't tease me about that subject again. Totally different experience, though, because I knew when he said it he was just teasing. Although I thought he should have known that it was a sensitive topic and not teased.