My list of base requirements are older than I am, a female, not all mushy, not imprisoned in the house of literal. AT my age it is somewhat harder to find someone significantly older than I am and there is the real possibility they could die from natural causes at any moment without huge surprise. (I would not rejoice, I just would not be surprised - no taken before their time/ in the prime of life sort of thing) (the same could be said of me to some extent).