Hi Pandoren-

I just wanted to tell you that I do understand where you are at. My dream has always been to have a few children of my own, and adopt/foster a few..after having two miscarriages last year, and the current court struggle we are in for my pre-adoptive son, I am thinking I would be happy with just him! Something that helps me, and might help you, is to think about all the things that you can do with your "new reality"..for instance, if we only have one, we can more easily spend time with our friends..afford to take him more places where, if we had several, we would need to leave them at home..etc. Yeah, they are negatives too, but focusing on the positives might help you shape a new dream.

By the way, my 7 year old pre-adoptive son fits A, B, and C of your criteria..and I wouldn't have it any other way :-)