His mother tries to shoot him - he HAS to minimize to survive. That's probably still his mindset to some extent - he hasn't had this breakthru experience that you just had, so he doesn't get it. My mother used to chase me around the house with a knife, but I HAVE had this experience with T, so I am NOT minimizing it for you. That is why I posted to you yesterday. I have purposely been trying to stay out of the way of your therapy, trying not to interfere (which is why i've been quiet). But for this - H CAN'T know it. It's beyond his ken. But I don't think he's purposely minimizing, FWIW.