Hate to say it but this magical number of 30 and remission is ********. Don't know where you heard that but I am 31 and feeling more of the symptoms of bpd than ever...or maybe I am realizing, I don't know but either way it is best to get that info out of your head. I don't know why you think you are so different compared to every other bpd out there. Frankly you sound like you could do the dbt again and maybe try to apply it. Ya the questions seem like grade school questions and almost mock your intelligence but at the same time judging by your responses to these replies it seems like nothing got through to you. Self serving, selfishness is a part of the disorder ya but being so rude and expecting so much from everyone but yourself is going to leave you very lonely. People aren't going to fix you, you have your own agenda so what more do you want or expect from anyone else? Aha...this is supposed to be your wake up moment...fix your own self and don't ask for help when you already know the answer.