I think I know what your T means but I'm relying heavily on my own T experience...My T puts it in terms of "mindfulness"....not acting on feelings but just "noticing" what they are and what thoughts they lead to. Some T's say "sitting with the feeling" as opposed to stifling and burying the feelings. My T often asks me to write it down as I'm feeling it. Later on, this stuff is so hard to recall!