ONE time - the first session after our rupture - no "opening" hug, I just felt like I didn't know who he was. T said, oh, the cold shoulder, huh? But I knew he was feeling awkward and bad too, it sounded like that comment "slipped out", like it was something he said to his ex-wives! We did hug goodbye that session, we worked things out pretty quickly about who we were to each other, although things were pretty intense for a while. But you're right, it felt good to say, no, I can't.