Sad to say, we just don't yet know enough about the human brain and its development to be able to know with certainty exactly why people behave sexually in all the different ways they do. In fact, we're not even very far from square one in this regard. It's not that there's something special about gender subjects. We're not very far from square one on all kinds of topics relating to the brain.

I know it's terribly frustrating to be told we just don't have answers to certain questions, only guesses. That's something most of us simply don't want to hear. Particularly when those questions are central to our own lives. But the amount of wrangling and argument that goes on about those questions involves us in all kinds of hostility and ill-feeling that really is not only wasted effort but is deleterious to our emotional lives.

I don't know if or when the following statement will ever be untrue: the acceptance of some degree of ignorance, whether temporary or permanent, is one of the absolute requirements of real personal peace for all human beings. There always have been and always will be large and important unresolved issues for people of all kinds. And all we can do is what we do now: continue to nibble away scientifically until we do have real answers to those issues that can ultimately be resolved.

So, to LovebirdsFlying and all other interested folk I offer this observation: Don't set your heart on knowing all the answers to issues of sexuality. If you do you will only fret yourselves into a permanent misery that you can avoid by trying to accept the state of uncertainty that is the lot of all people in all times and places, even considering the many advances made by science. Take care.