I still think a list or "cheat sheet", if you will, would be handy. Doing the list with your daughter could be helpful for understanding.
A friend of mine is embracing his (bio her) masculinity. I still have a hard time with the pronoun change. He's very understanding. Change is difficult no matter what side of the glass you're on.
I applaud you for your courage to explore this subject, the easy way out would be to turn away. You're not.