Then you can tell her that. It's difficult but certainly not impossible to communicate those needs to your T, and there's nothing wrong with being specific.

I think I used to have that hollywood crap in my head telling me that if someone really cared about me, they'd know what I needed without my saying so. Not so much anymore. I feel like I trust my current T enough to let her know if I don't want a hug.

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