That is COMPLETELY inappropriate. The phone-checking, the phone ANSWERING, telling you whoever it was he didn't want to hear from. It's disruptive, disrespectful, and shows a lack of personal restraint, in my opinion.

The only time my T ever had his phone (which is usually silenced during sessions) on vibrate and hinted he might answer it was when his wife was pregnant and close to her due date. All he said was, "If my phone buzzes twice, I need to leave. After that, I will need two weeks or so before I can see you again." And that was that.

Actually, for a short period of time there was some construction going on on the floor above his office. It was kind of annoying, but one day it was really stressful because I was trying to talk about something difficult, and they were banging away at something like crazy up there. My T excused himself and went upstairs to tell them to please just stop what they were doing for just 10 minutes. They actually did, and it was a gesture that made me feel really cared for.

Definitely bring this up with your T. It's totally wrong and it's the opposite of the way he should be conducting himself.