My heart goes out to everyone who has had a bad T experience. My advice is to always confront them about the behavior, no matter how difficult the subject matter. They need to learn from their mistakes so it doesn't happen again with someone else. I would say most therapists "get" the rules but some have not been properly trained - this is because not all therapists have gone into therapy themselves and done their own work - a priority in my opinion. We learn by doing. It is always okay to set your own rules in your therapy by, say, telling your therapist that it is not okay for them to answer the phone during session. If they understand, then great but if they have a problem with it then it is not the right T for you anyway. Remember: you are the one paying so you have a right to certain conditions. And, expressing yourself this way may help you with issues that occur outside of therapy. Try it and see what happens...
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