Well this evening ( its night time for me now) he went to get some milk from the store and I had a chance to read all the messages. He didn't say much except for his um intimate things. From what I gathered he seemed to be only interested in her telling him her sexual desires for him. I saw in over 7 messages he sent her that he said ' nothing will ever come of this, its nice to know that I am desired but nothing will ever happen". Now I don't know if is really what he feels. I confronted him again after he got home his exact words to me where " you and I have been together so long it was nice to know I'm still wantable (I don't think its a real word, English is not my strong point) and he told her his intimate things because he was worried that I would have a bad reaction ( we have only been with each other in the bedroom and are both 'naïve'( is that the word to use)) and that he doesn't care if she judges him because she is not important. Now what if he is just saying these things to make me feel better? He treats me well, he never swears on me and helps me with everything he can, he even helps with house work. So yes I think he does treat me well. I have to marry him our families will disown us if we don't, we where just lucky that we liked each other from childhood and have been friends for long. Because there is no way out I thought that if we work on our relationship it would be better than being miserable. If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you with. Thank you for careing enough to share your advise