To clarify what I said about making him look good. I mean, when the victim starts to question things, and see it for what it is, it is scary, and of course if you continue to admit it is abuse then you have to make a choice. So to avoid that and the uncomfortable feelings, the victim will start to look for evidence that the abuser does care, as in he encouraged you to go to therapy. If you can rebuild in you head the image that this person is good , because hey look, they did do something nice for me, it negates all the bad, and you are free to continue along just as before.