My T doesn't seem to have such a great grip on this one. I think he takes what I am saying seriously as something I am FEELING, and not something I am just saying to be difficult, but I don't know that he always gets how serious I am when I say I'm thinking of leaving.

Twice, this has almost been a disaster. You'd think he'd have learned after the first time. Still, the second time was less of a mess... I'd been talking about leaving for a little while, and one day he asked me, "Is there anything you feel like I'm missing in our conversations recently?" and I said, "I don't think you are taking it seriously enough when I say I am thinking of leaving. Because I am." After that, he said something that really changed things for the better between us. He does learn, eventually...