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Old Feb 19, 2012, 09:42 AM
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Sounds to me your son has black or white thinking. My therapist says that is my thinking as well. It's either or with no middle ground. My therapist is trying to help me see that there are grey areas in life not just extremes.
He does. And he has since childhood. It's so interesting. I taught him to read with he was 6. His school was using a method that wasn't working with him, so I took him to the library and found some old books that took a phonetics approach to teaching reading. I had him read to me. He would insist that he couldn't read - then he'd read. I remember one story which he read from beginning to end with me helping him sound out two words. When he got to the end, he said, "See? I can't read." I was astonished. I told him he'd just read the whole story. He pointed out that I'd helped with two words. So for him, it was all or nothing. All the words he read easily counted for nothing because of the two he struggled with!

He still thinks that way today. I'm working on it. And now that he's aware of it he's working on it too.
Thanks for this!
cybermember