Sounds like me. where are my rewards. when you don't trust you are going to get rewarded, why work for anything? I DID work, all thru grade school and high school only to be laughed at at the end by my parents and denied my dream. it screwed me up. I still worked, but I couldn't keep any rewards, financially, physically, emotionally. I can't even have myself. Does your son even have himself? How can he have a job? I don't mean to be harsh on you, no one works harder than you to help. I just got a feeling of him spinning, and a job and stuff flying off him, where we just need to solidify and establish him first. Does he do chores at home?