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Old Feb 19, 2012, 12:28 PM
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Originally Posted by hankster View Post
I don't mean to pry, but 2 questions:
1. when I gave those same qualifications at my disability appeal about the kind of job I could work (non-judgmental), I think that's when they made their decision - no such job
I don't think he was ever asked about that. It would indeed have to be a very unique job. I picture something where he's working in a small office or business with one or two or three very kind people who understand he'll have bad days, but if they don't lean on him too hard, he'll eventually come back to center.

Where do you find that job? Not at the places they're making him apply - big retail stores and restaurants. He won't work fast enough. He'll get confused. He's even had jobs in the past where he would get lost in the store or business because his sense of direction is so bad. And there will inevitably be conflict with coworkers and customers.

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2. re behavior at home chores etc - didn't that show up on the questionnaires about how he functions?
When he applied for disability, he wasn't living at home.

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does he need another review?
Yes. Because he didn't meet the Ticket To Work goals last year, he has to have medical reviews again.

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I forget, was he kicked out of group housing, is that why he is with you?
He was kicked out for being a disruption. He was refusing to take medication (spitting it out), eating other people's food, and wrecking the place (one night he sprayed Coke all over the floor; another night at 2 am he fished an empty pizza carton out of the trash and cooked it in the oven, setting off the fire alarms). The final thing that sealed his fate was the evening at 8 when they were giving out meds, he was in the kitchen right outside the staff office door arguing about taking his meds when he urinated on the kitchen wall.

He was just hell for them to handle. It would help if they weren't so rigid and inflexible, but I guess it's going to be that way in group housing. The first time he lived there he did ok, but eventually he became paranoid and delusional about the staff - even though he was functioning well otherwise. He has a really hard time with anyone telling him what to do, and he always thinks people are judging him harshly.

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it would be nice if the voc rehab worker would treat you not as family, but more like a group home, where he had expectations he had to fulfill.
Hmmm... I never thought of that. I didn't realize voc rehab ever did that. The only expectation they seem to have is that he get a job.