Here's the deal- I am doing Codependents anonymous/ codependent no more and the first step is admitting we are powerless over_____.
for me, I am admitting I am powerless over other people's reactions, thoughts, and decisions. (amongst a whole lot of things I am powerless over but have tried to control)
I can tell them how I feel, but I can't get them to give me the kind of support I need. That does not mean that we have to accept being mistreated. I stopped trying to get other people to agree with my feelings.
I accept, with sadness, that my ex bf and one of my friends are unable to be there for me now and help me. I assumed that when people care about me, they will treat me like I need to be treated, but they are simply either unwilling or unable to do it. I used to insist on getting other people to see it my way and do what I need.

I am sorry that your friends are not giving you the support you need. You have to evaluate if that is acceptable to you or not.