Thanks guys, there is a resounding message in all your replies. Stop saying Yes not for me but my family...I think for now I will avoid the calls and if I happen to pick up I will just say Sorry I can't & not explain just so I can't. I know that it wont be easy but you guys are right this could potentially be a much bigger issue if I don't. I have to, it's not going to be easy but it will def'ly be easier than my children getting hurt/seeing this behavior, its not fair to them. Baby steps. Thanks again to all of you. I feel better even putting all of this down in writing and getting feed back that I am not a bad person for this feeling.

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