The sad thing is, Lola, that clinicians are "spooked" by the BPD label, even in this day and age that has proven that there are treatments that work for people with BPD. In the past and even in today's world, clinicians don't tell clients that BPD is the suspected diagnosis. It is still considered the "kiss of death". Why? Because most clinicians aren't well trained in the disorder (not their fault, in the past it was believed that BPD was an untreatable personality disorder). I know that BPD wasn't even an indepth topic when I was a mastered student in psychology, AND most psychiatrists aren't schooled well in the topic either, other than to push useless medications . . . BUT most were told that they are in BIG trouble when one of those clients walks through their door.

I think things are improving but it's slow and that's here in the U.S. A lot of clinicians don't want to treat people with BPD and they don't let the client know what their diagnosis is when they refer them out. It's the old shell game. There is treatment out there for us and there are GOOD, SOLID clinicians who are equipped to provide caring and enhancing treatment to us. Your x therapist, however, wasn't equipped to deal with any client who needed services, let alone a client with BPD traits. I'm rooting for you and hoping that you find what you need!