I have been dating " Jane" for about five months. We have had a wonderful relationship until about three weeks ago. It seems that every time we talk on the phone there becomes an issue, and we argue. Just on the phone, when we are together in person, we seem to get along fine. Unfortunately, we live far apart and can only see each other on the weekends, so the phone is the way we communicate during the rest of the time.

"Jane" has had some very rough relationships in the past ( including abuse, abandonment, beatings) and I think this is hurting our relationship. She has trust issues, takes things out of context, becomes very combative if you do not agree or say the " right" things to her. I am almost afraid to say anything to her on the phone for fear she will take it the wrong way.

I really love this woman, and it is frustrating to be " wrong" all the time, even if I have to abandon my own personal feelings in order to attempt to placate her. Which seldom works.

I am afraid she had become clinically paranoid, due to the abuse she has endured in the past, and I don't know how to remedy this. Please help me, as I don't want to lose her.