Hi toonkate
I had a very similar situation - but in my case they refused to see me for all kinds of spurious reasons. The only thing that actually got me the treatment that everyone who knew me said I needed was to contact my MP and the local PCT and set the situation out before them. That was after I had gone through the complaints procedures, both informal and formal. In my case the truth turned out to be that my local mental health authority had a policy of closing the lists and not accepting any new referrals when the waiting list reached 6 months.
Have hope and keep fighting. I am now seeing a psychologist who is challenging me but relaly helping me.
PM me if you want to know more. It's a long story!
C