Mylife, I would urge you to be extremely careful about sharing this. I know that it is the "chic" thing to "come out" these days, but if it goes wrong you will be more miserable than you are now. I speak from experience. Nearly 50 years ago, in college, I made the mistake of hitting on a so-called "friend." Not only did he reject me, he told a number of others in our circle of "so-called friends" and as a result, I have felt ostracized and fearful ever since, even though I am a latent bisexual. I am afraid to visit my college for things like homecoming even because I fear running into some of those same people. All these years, I have feared the consequences of background investigations, etc. in my life's work. I have always wanted to have a trustworthy friend that I could count on as a lover and as a confidante. I have never had that luxury. But, I know to this day, that if I approached the wrong person the results would be worse. Don't mean to be a wet blanket, but there are worse things than being in the closet--IN MY EXPERIENCE.