I'm torn between accepting it as a healthy expression of sexuality and what my therapist said last time I was there nearly a year ago..She drew a tonne of parallels between why I was drawn to BDSM and my feelings towards my parents, towards my ex, towards myself..And all of that just makes it FEEL like something I shouldn't want, which in my head is the same as making someone that's gay feel ashamed.

I suppose it was because there always felt like there woas something...lacking in sex before I found it.