Yes, it is cheating. My husband of 6 years met someone (who he had been friends with at work for a few years) and he did the same thing! We were at a Christmas party at her house and I went home early (I wasn't feeling well)...and he stayed until 2am. I looked through his phone and found a special folder with texts to/from her. I confronted him about it...he denyed, denyed, denyed..

One we decided to go our seperate ways, he told me (much later) that she tried to kiss him during that Xmas Eve party. He didn't want to hurt me by telling me that. He ended up getting engaged to her..it's two years later and they now live together in the home I shared with him...and he's adopting her two kids. They are getting married in July. Yea...so, I guess that's the worst case scenario for you - I don't want to scare you.

I think what you have to ask yourself is, Is it emotionally hurting you? Do you feel at all betrayed by his actions? Do you think he has feelings for her? If you have a friend in your situation, what would you tell her? It's a tough one.

Please just be very careful...