Wow, that sounds very frustrating! Most definitely , i highly recommend sex therapist for both you and your wife. You deserve to be happy and fulfilled/satisfied. As far as being attracted to same gender, how honest of you. I think it's pretty normal, but most men are too homophobic to admit it. I believe studies show that it can be common to be attracted mainly to opposite sex but also
fascinated by the same gender sexually. Sexuality, i believe, is more fluid sometimes than just
Gay or straight.