Congrats on your baby, Jennie! I think, at some point, you should have a talk with your brother and be frank with him about how you feel around him. I don't mean you have to or should do it before or during this upcoming visit, or even in the near future, but just someday, when you're ready.

As for this visit, tell him you and your husband plan to do something special one of the days just for you two alone, and you don't want to hurt his feelings, but you'd prefer if he only stayed one or two days. Tell him you and hubby made these plans a while back.

As for the breastfeeding, I agree, you should go into the bedroom or elsewhere. I don't like telling you to do that, being that it's your home, but since he's the guest, I can see where you wouldn't want to ask him to leave while you do that. Or, you could invite a bunch of other breastfeeding moms over for a breastfeeding party. Not only will he stammer and excuse himself to leave, but your hubby will, too! LOL!