You know some of the answers lie in the complexities of relationships. Also, you know other's issues are theirs--& interfer in any relationships they have with you or anyone else.

Your boyfriend is reporting his feelings when he says things like "youre starting to hate me" or "were growing apart huh." Depression is a powerful emotional state that drives a person's feelings; depression makes your boyfriend feel that you hate him--not anything you do. You aren't in charge of his feelings, his depression is.

Unfortunately it seems that those closest to you right now are all separated from you by some sort of mental health issue. None are things easily dealt with by a good friend. Know that your desire to be there for them is admirable, but don't expect something of yourself that's not realistic.

Maybe, in some gentle way, you can urge these people to seek professional help. It is the best help that a good friend can offer in a case such as this.