Did DocJohn change the guidelines when I wasn't looking? You're right, we can all judge; it doesn't take any effort at all to write, that's wrong, T's an a s s hat. But to squeeze the positive out of a situation, to put yourself in the other person's shoes, to try to find another choice or perspective, takes time and thoughtfulness. And again, the "desperation" is coming from you. We were tuned into each other from the beginning, the same wit, the same quickness, etc. Have you started a thread or are you just a commenter, like me? if you could help me figure THAT one out...