Likewater, thanks for responding. You are correct that therapy for both could be helpful. However, we went through 12 weeks of marital counselling in the mid-90s, which she ultimately rejected by saying the therapist and I had "ganged-up" on her. That therapy was directed at more general issues, but my experience with her on that and the enormous amount of psycho-baggage we have makes joint therapy impossible. I recently contracted a therapist for myself only, but that fell through because of administrative reasons. You are certainly correct about my level of frustration. Despite my disability, I have an extremely high level of sexual energy and desire. I know that I could give great pleasure to a partner in bed, if I had the chance. Every young woman I see is a fantasy for me. I don't necessarily react the same way with every man, but I would leap at the chance for an ongoing sexual relationship with the right person.