Sezzie - I can relate to ur t putting a spin on stuff...although i got along with my last one (the one i had prior to leaving akld) sometimes she would really throw me by linking my probs to stuff i didn't think was it at all...who knows maybe we had the same one lol!!! i guess u cld always bring up ur concerns ( not easy tho - well, at least i've never felt too comfy doing it!)