I would call the police, and try to have him removed out of the home until he can calm down. However, I don't know that it's the best idea. I just have no room for abusers in my life, if there is one thing I have zero tolerance for it is abuse.

Where do your grand parents live? Close enough for you and mom to get to tonight?

I am really sorry about your husband, and marital problems, and your dad. I do not understand some people. Not at all.

You are not crazy, worthless, or disgusting. Do not let him have that power over you. Maybe this is really how he feels about himself.

I'm really really sorry.

He sounds a lot like my own father, very similar. You know what, my father ended up being dx eventually.