Personally, I think you should go to a women's shelter or grand parents, with or with out mom. Do you think your mom will really leave in a day or two?

You really don't need this right now. You need peace. Women's shelters are really not that bad, trust me, not here anyways, actually pretty nice. The thing is they have the resources, and contacts, counseling, all the stuff you need to get on your feet. Sounds like you might need extra help pertaining to your husband too. but you have to get well first before you can even begin to deal with the rest.