That's going a bit far..He couldn't go to prison for statutory rape.

I don't expect or particularly want to spend the holidays with him or get married to him/have kids with him..I'm not going to stay with him forever, I never planned to. But I am in a relationship with him right now which means it's a big part of my life.

I may sound idealistic at times and I'm aware that I wont always be..However I will not allow time and percieved wisdom with age allow me to be realistic all the time. I'm trying to resist emotional death here.

It started as sex, we were just f*****g and having fun. The problems came when we started getting more emotionally involved.

I never tried to paint myself as a victim here, I was genuinely confused about some stuff..But I'm being talked to as a victim of...something. Which I think says more about what society thinks of women rather than what I think of myself. Everyone assumed I'm a victim of him being emotionally abusive.

I'm not defending anything he may or may not have done wrong. And the advice everyone has given has been genuine and caring. But I don't feel like you're really understanding what I'm saying. I don't think anyone is being abused here..Why hasn't anyone considered that I went into this relationship wanting to get MY sexual needs met? Because that's all it was, WE developed feelings. He mentioned it first actually and there's no need to because he was already getting what he wanted sexually. It's not like he said I love you to get me into bed because I was already screwing him.

I dont want him all to myself. I have other guys and girls I see sexually. But he's the only person I have STRONG romantic feelings for.