Carmen. Bipolar dosen't get cured or go away all together but it is very treatable. Sometimes it can take awhile to get the proper medication sorted out. The right mdication is different for everyone and there is no test to determine just what medication or what amount will work. Its an exercise in patience at first. Even then medication needs can change over time and adjustments will sometimes be necessary. One of the most important things you can do is encourage your spouse to take and stay on his medications even when he is feeling fine. There are many good books out there that can explain what bi polar is and how you can help your bipolar hubby. Check your local library. Untreated bi polar can be very confusing and hurtful to those around the bipolar person and the more you understand the less liekly you are to feel victimized by this disease. I am bipolar and I went untreated for many years resulting in some pretty heavy damage to my relationships including with my hubby. With treatment I am very much a different person to deal with and my husband has come to understand that my disease is NOT a refection on him, nor is it in any way his fault. Our relationship is much better now and the past hurts have healed as we both begin to see that disease behaviour is not really who I am. Still people who recieve counselling along with meds have a lot better chance of leading a happy life than those who take meds alone. Couselling is usually resisted by men so you can help by helping him see that counseling dosen't mean he is weak or incompetent. It is just another way to treat a tricky disease. Good luck to you both, be patient and kind and above all take care of your own needs as well through a support group or couselor of your own. Take care MartheH