I must say, if he can't handle it all, then I personally would tell him, that you do not wish for this disorder, nor can you totally know ahead of time when things may get bad, hey. . . you aren't a fortune teller, right?
I understand you don't want to lose him, but on the other hand if he can't accept you as you are or can be, then he really isn't a "strong character" himself.
If possible, try to tell him this. I have a friend whose former boyfriend couldn't deal with her depression, so they split, but I told her she is better off, I mean, what kind of husband or even father would he make if he can't handle things, right?
This is your personal business, but just giving you my opinion.
Meanwhile, I am sincerely wishing you lots of luck and "healing", please take care now

DE

In giving advice seek to help, not please your friend
SOLON