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Originally Posted by Elana05
Hi Italianma,
18 years is a long time to be together.
Is the lack of communication because your husband is generally withdrawn? Are there others with whom he communicates? Do you ever fight and argue?
It does sound frustrating on your side of things. Your feelings are completely valid. A relationship takes 2, of course so he has to be open to hearing what you have to say. I hope that he can hear you when you say it is counseling or you need to check out. Counseling can be a great help. But he needs to be there for it. It takes two to tango as they say. I am sending supportive thoughts your way.
Elana
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Thank you for your support. My husband battles depression and I'm not sure that this is his only issue. He spends most of his time being angry or depressed and involved in his own thoughts. We had a very short separation a while back and the plan was for each of us to seek counseling on our own, then seek marriage counseling together. Well, he went to 1 appt. and has not yet went back. He seems to just want to push things under the rug as we have done for years and I'm trying to tell him I can't do that anymore. I guess the most difficult part for me is that I am educating myself, and seeking counseling for the first time in my life and starting to realize.. life should be better.