I can relate. My parents were very invasive and controlling as a child and young adult. Even as I grew to a young woman they inserted their opinions and biasises constantly! Now that my father has passes my mother is back to her old tricks. She reals me in and is very contrite when she wants to be and tries to direct my whole life , food men how I run my house everything but when she gets mad she blames me fir taking up too much of her time and space! I don't get her! It's a push pull control only relationship . I'm sick of it. It did get better when I got to college or if I moved away from home but she always finds a way to draw me home with manipulation. I wish the best of luck.