I'm sorry if this is harsh but he is a pig, an abuser and being as he got with you before you were an adult a pedophile . I myself have been in emotionally abusive relationships and he is up there at the top. No one should take please out of someone elses pain. My current boyfriend knows my secret places I cut sometimes and it's the first thing he checks to be sure I HAVENT hurt myself, also I'm anorexic and he tries to find positive ways to get me to eat without being negative or corrosive or rude. I was my fathers pride and joy and he just passed away and I'm crushed but I'm actually dating a guy 3 years younger. I've done the older thing and if they treat you the way they are your more mature than them!