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Originally Posted by LazyLogophile
You build problem solving skills, hand-eye-coordination, and focus. I appreciate all of this. As I said before, I used to be a pretty serious gamer. I almost went pro. I was in training, and doing tournaments every weekend while I was working full time and going to school. But I also learned from that experience. I saw how consumed I became with my gaming, and how I would let my other responsibilities - like time with my boyfriend (now my ex), attention at work, and motivation to do school work - fall to the sidelines so I could game more. That isn't healthy.
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It is not so much other responsibilities being dropped that we baby boomers object to :-) but the alleged social interaction isn't "real". Your boyfriend has not and is not learning to interact with other actual people (like your friends) or people in a wide variety of activities. The constant gaming, too, becomes a habit that can't be broken easily any more than an addiction can and he will never get that time "back" to learn what he might have liked to know.
Eye-hand coordination and focus for what? More gaming. It's great if you're a toddler/young child and need to learn eye-hand coordination and focus but one has that (or wouldn't enjoy gaming) by the time they're adults. Getting "better" is only for that task, not all tasks needing eye-hand coordination (he can't play tennis better can he?).
I would ask him to radically re-think his current life (you and your son, his work/school, whatever) and what he sees himself doing/being in five years and then make your decision on what you see yourself doing/being in five years if they "match" well enough.