I agree with lad007 totally on all points. It is hard to get that one mean action/thing said out of your head. Every so often it rears its ugly head and hangs on like a bad cough. So sorry you are going through this, I know how much it hurts. About 2 yrs ago my husband contacted his ex on FB and I busted him....he lied and told me it was her that initiated contact. I hacked his FB and found that that was a lie, he was bad mouthing me to her and she was playing right into it, even tho she was married too. A serious part of our relationship died that day. We have been together 17yrs with 4 wonderful kids. Every man in my life has slept with their exes while still with me and he knew how much it would hurt me and he still did it, so this was extremely hurtful and demeaning to me, so I can empathize. I have told him that I forgive him but that it is going to take a long time for him to earn that trust back. I just gave him his FB acct back this past month, everything he gets on there is sent to my acct and he is aware of that. I am still reeling over this but I do love him and know now that he realizes how bad he hurt me he is trying so hard to fix it. I am so glad you shared here and wanted to let you know that I understand the pain that echo causes, it may always be there but what works for me is when it starts is to make a check list of the positive things he has done no matter how small and compare the 1 against the many..... it helps me, hope it helps you also.

HUGE hugz
Nams