Thank you for responding. I was using my husband's words by saying that he has faults. I am fully aware that I have faults, too.

Here are a few issues (and I realize that non-Asperberger's spouses may have these qualities as well):
1. He was into computer porn for several years, even after I told him how much it bothered me and asked him to stop.
2. He has a short temper with our small children and exhibits road rage while driving.
3. He shows little caring and concern for me or the children when we are sick.
4. He has many things that he likes a certain way and will not consider compromising.
5. He has clear work goals but chooses not to develop concrete goals for the children or us as a couple (I have asked for this). He spends nearly 80 hours a week at work during some parts of the year.

If we did not have a family, I think I could learn to adjust and care for myself. But the truth is, his seeming lack of care and concern very much affect me and my ability to cope and parent. I am trying to reach out for help - I'm not here to offend.