I never knew that this was what I really wanted to hear until he said it. I was talking about how much it stresses me out that I have a hard time talking about positive things in session. I hate that my reaction when I am really happy is muted when I'm in session, and that I still haven't figured out how to deal with the vulnerability I feel when I'm happy.

He said, "Sally, because it's so upsetting to you, I hope you can find a way through that and all of the other things that are frustrating to you, if it will make you happier. But from where I sit, I would be just as happy if you didn't change a thing. 'As is' is terrific."

Then I cried a lot.