Social security does not pay for care. You can use it to help pay for care. Is he a veteran? The VA has help for people with service connected disabilities. What I meant about bookeeping is if you hire someone privately rather then an agency you need to with hold taxes and pay in the employer's amount. You also need to get workman's compensation unless someone has an established caregiving business of their own. Please feel free to call me, I can explain in more detail if you wish. I don't have your number so p.m. me if you need me to call you. I would lose my boobs if they weren't attached so don't take it personally. You know, dad can't have it all his way. "Dad, I know you want to come home to your own home and I want to make you happy. The only way that I can do this is with the help of other people to help care for you. My doctor told me I need to take special care of myself and helping you is part of it but I need you to agree to accepting x.y.z". You can tell him that if he does not agree to letting you get some paid help that you will have to follow his doc's advice and have him go to the nursing home. Good luck my dear.